It is better to be independent
I know that. Obviously, it is ideal to not have to depend on anyone. But usually when I hear this, I feel like it is assumed because of my age, my romantic relationship, my relationship with my parents being good, me technically not having a full time job right now and sustaining myself . . . as if all of those things are bad things! I mean sure, I am not struggling. I recognize that greatly while I recognize so many others my age are struggling. It was all my choice, ultimately, sure. But I honestly am not planning to no longer have something that I think is going good in my life right now. Nor do I try to push it out with what other people think is better. I am just perfectly fine where I am right now. Sure that fluctuates here and there, but I am generally content with life and I think that is fine. Everyone else around me might not be at the moment, but whatever.
You truly learn what it means to be on your own when you don't live with your parents
I live with my dad. I do not need to pay rent right now while I am still looking for a job. Is that awesome? Yes it is! Lucky me, I do not ever overlook that or take it for granted. I am fully appreciative as much as possible. But whoever said I need to learn this lesson right now? I will dammit, eventually. But right now I will be taking my time making good memories with my dad and learning more about him. When I am on my own and forced to become stronger, great, I will await for the time to fully hit but I will not rush into forcing myself to. Yes, I am comfortable. Yes, it is a simple life. But I am not taking it for granted and I am not giving it away because people tell me to.
Don't ever let a guy think you depend on him, he will tie you down
I love my boyfriend. Sure we bicker here and there, but sometimes I think it is cute. Sure, sometimes we play house, we are too cutesy or we seem very naive about love. Whatever, if you think we will probably break up in three years. I don't give a fuck. He is awesome. We are friends. We help each other out, and I am so thankful to have him in my life. This does not necessarily mean I will give in all my dreams just to make him happy. That is stupid, and he would never make me do that. Sometimes, he can be a jerk, but I check that shit all the time. I really do not think I am failing at this serious relationship thing! I do not think I am missing out on all the other fish I can date, when those fish most likely just think about themselves all the time. He is the only fish I want. Doesn't everyone else who is single dream of that? Well then haters need to listen to me, cuz it's possible! There is nothing wrong with wanting someone to think about me. There is nothing wrong with the same someone to want me to think about them. It's just perfect that way! Not weird and bizarre, but perfect and romantic as fuck. So there.
If I were your age, I would take advantage of being single and travel the world
I do want to travel the world, and it will be there when I am ready to explore it to my fullest capability. But right now, there are other things I need to work on and figure out. And being in a committed relationship does not prevent the both of us from being able to see the world together one day. Honestly, I feel like I have traveled a lot, it definitely does a lot to a person, you grow and get wiser but then you are also exhausted. I want to relax, I want to experience not rushing for the next adventure and just enjoy the calm.
You could totally live on your own and survive, don't ever think you need a guy to survive.
Like, I never planned for this nor did I think I was missing out on anything in life. I am pretty sure I feel happy right where I am, and in the moments I do not feel happy, I am going my own path and doing it my own way to find personal happiness. This has nothing to do with whether I have my own money to spend or not, whether I depend on someone to love me, etc etc.
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